Your emotions are the slaves to your thoughts, and you are the slave to your emotions
Emotion is psychology and thinking is subjective, conscious experience characterized primary by physiological expression, biological reactions, and mental states. Emotion is often associated and considered equally influence with mood, temperament and personality. The outcome of the emotions is that they lead us astray. Anyone can become angry. That is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose and in the right way. Emotion is primarily about nothing, and much of it remains about nothing to the end. Emotion is just as the pleasure-pain mechanism of man’s body
The physiology of emotion is closely linked to arousal of the nerve system with various states and strengths of arousal relating, apparently, to particular emotions. Although those acting primarily on emotion may seem as mental process of thinking, particularly the interpretation of events. The cognition of danger and subsequent arousal of the nervous system is an integral component to the subsequent interpretation and labeling of that arousal as an emotional state. Emotion is also linked to behavioral tendency. Extroverted people are more likely to be social and express their emotions, while introverted people are more likely to be more socially withdrawn and conceal their emotions. Emotion is sometimes feelings. Feeling is to describe the t the physical sensation of touch.
A distinction can be made between emotional episodes and emotional dispositions. Emotional dispositions are also comparable to character traits, where someone may be said to be generally disposed to experience certain emotions. For example, an irritable person is generally disposed to feel irritation more easily or quickly than others do. Finally, some theorists place emotions within a more general category of “effective states” where effective states can also include emotion-related phenomena such as pleasure and pain, motivational states (for example, hunger, curiosity, moods dispositions and traits.
The classification of emotions has mainly been researched from two fundamental viewpoints. The first viewpoint is that emotions are discrete and fundamentally different constructs while the second viewpoint asserts that emotions can be characterized on a dimensional basis in groupings. The emotion that you can create in your story is the key to whether it’s compelling or not. Some authors are incredible at taking a reader on an emotional roller coaster resulting in a climax to the protagonist that is both unexpected and real. So storytelling is a natural part of life and some of us are better at it than others.
Creating a story that can set someone on a journey that will entertain, enrich and develop a reader is no mean feat but the best of them are those that tap in to the emotions completely. A good storyteller feels the characters as he’s presenting the story, enabling him to pass on the emotions, and so should a writer feel his characters before he writes it down. But while the standard of value operating the physical pleasure-pain mechanism of man’s body is automatic and innate, determined by the nature of his body—the standard of value operating his emotional mechanism is not. Since man has no automatic knowledge, he can have no automatic values; since he has no innate ideas, he can have no innate value judgments. Man is born with an emotional mechanism
Emotions are the most present, pressing and sometimes painful force in our lives. We are driven day by day by our emotions.We take chances because we’re excited for new prospects. We cry because we’ve been hurt and we make sacrifices because we love. Without a doubt, our emotions dictate our thoughts, intentions and actions with superior authority to our rational minds. But when we act on our emotions too quickly, or we act on the wrong kinds of emotions, we often make decisions that we later lament. Our feelings can alter between dangerous extremes.
Negative emotions, like rage, envy or bitterness, tend to spiral out of control, especially immediately after they’ve been triggered. In time, these sorts of emotions can grow like weeds, slowly conditioning the mind to function on detrimental feelings and dominating daily life. Ever met a person who’s consistently angry or hostile? They weren’t born that way. But they allowed certain emotions to stir within them for so long that they became inbred feelings arising all too frequently. So how can we avoid operating on the wrong types of feelings and master our emotions under the harshest of circumstances? Follow my six steps to control your emotions and regain rationality in any challenging situation:
1.Don’t react right away. Reacting immediately to emotional triggers can be an immense mistake. It is guaranteed that you’ll say or do something you’ll later regret. Before refuting the trigger with your emotional argument, take a deep breath and stabilize the overwhelming impulse. Continue to breathe deeply for five minutes, feeling as your muscles intense and your heart rate returns to normal. As you become calmer, affirm to yourself that this is only temporary.
2.Ask for divine guidance. Faith is our saving grace in our darkest moments. No matter your creed, developing a healthy relationship with the divine world will help you surmount your obstacles more easily. This is because when you believe in a higher force, you also believe in the power of divine intervention to show you what you must do, teach you why something is happening or even save you from a certain unwanted situation. When burdened with emotion, close your eyes, envision a positive solution to your problem, and ask the universe to illuminate the best path forward.
3.Find a healthy outlet. Now that you’ve managed your emotion, you’ll need to release it in a healthy way. Emotions should never be bottled up. Call or go see someone you trust and recount to them what happened. Hearing an opinion other than your own broadens your awareness. Keep a journal and transfer your emotions from your inner self onto the paper. Many people find it helpful to engage in aggressive exercises, such as kickboxing or martial arts, to discharge their feelings. Others meditate and chant to return to a tranquil state of being. Perform whatever activity is best-suited to you in order to liberate your being from pent-up sentiments.
4.See the bigger picture. Every happening of our lives, whether good or bad, serves a higher purpose. Wisdom means being able to see past the moment and discern the greater meaning of any given situation. You may not understand it in the beginning, but as time goes by, you’ll begin to see the bigger picture falling into perfect order. Even in the midst of an emotionally upsetting moment, trust that there exists an ultimate purpose which you will come to comprehend soon.
5.Replace your thoughts. Negative emotions bind us to recurring negative thoughts, creating cycles of downright negative patterns. Whenever you are confronted with an emotion which is making you feel or think something bad, force it out of your mind and replace it with a different thought. Imagine the ideal resolution to your problem playing out, think about someone who makes you happy or remember an event that makes you smile.
6.Forgive your emotional triggers. Your emotional triggers may be your best friend, your family members, yourself or all of the above. You may feel a sudden wave of anger when your friend “does that thing she does,” or a stab of self-loathing when you remember something you could have done differently. But when you forgive, you detach. You detach from the resentment, the jealousy or the fury lingering within you. You allow people to be who they are without the need for escalating emotions. As you forgive, you will find yourself disassociating from the harsh feelings attached to your being.
7. Talk to yourself. Emotions are sneaky. One minute you’re fine, the next you feel yourself sliding downhill. Worry move stealthily in. Something, or maybe several things, didn’t go as well as you’d hoped, and you’re headed down a dark path.
8. Fuel up. Emotions don’t play fair. They attack when you’re most vulnerable: when your schedule is packed with events, chores, and responsibilities. Make sure you first take care of basic needs like food, water, sleep, and exercise. You’ll find it much easier to stay calm, cool,
A constant reminder of our ardent nature, emotions surge through us at every second of the day. But we often take wrong actions when wrong feelings filter through our mind without restraint. To avoid the burn of acting out during an emotional upsurge, take a few simple steps to calm your heightened spirit and quiet your uneasy mind. When the moment has passed (in hindsight), you’ll be grateful you were able to be the master of your emotions. In conclusion any decision which we reach while we are in emotion mood result failure. We can control our emotions by minimizing our anxiety, sadness and anger and that will generate common understanding and happiness. It is to dangerous when our emotion is based on tribal basis. Finally one has to live in reality and not by emotion.
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